也许该是那一个选择(共3篇)
1.也许该是那一个选择 篇一
有人说:在他的微信里,与你的聊天是置顶的,聊天背景是你,回你的消息是秒回。因为是你,所以一直都有空。
有人说:即使是双方都在忙着自己的事情,但是只要你一抬头就会发现他正温柔的看着你。
有人说:当你笑时他也会不由自主跟着你傻笑。
也有人说:为了你拒绝了所有的暧昧,跟所有的女生都保持着一定的距离。即使你们还不是情侣但还是不想让你误会。
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在男女之间,要想看一个男人是否真正彻底的爱上你,其实是有迹可循的。下面具体就来说一说!
主动联系你
一个男人是不是彻底爱上你,看他主不主动是很重要的。男人如果真的爱上一个女人的话,那么他也会经常主动打电话给你,或者是经常在微信上跟你互动。他想时时刻刻听到你的声音,想看到有关你的事情,即使是白天工作繁忙时,也会抽空来给你发条短信什么的。他会想尽办法来联系你的,把你当成他的宝贝。
回复你的速度
当一个男人彻底爱上你时,在回复你的信息这方面也是可以看出来的。当然是要排除掉上班时间,工作忙的时候回复你信息肯定是会比较慢的。但是如果是已经下班回家了或者是周末不用上班的时候,你发出的信息你立即就回,他肯定是爱你的。
经常约你出去
如果一个男人仅仅是跟你聊天,而不想要出去的话,这个男人有可能是还处在对你有好感的阶段。真正爱你的男人,是会想要时时刻刻见到你的,他会在自己空闲的时间里找你出去外面逛逛,或者是即使工作忙时,也会尽量抽出时间来跟你约会。
对你身边出现的异性警惕性很高
每一个人对自己喜欢的人都是有占有欲的,特别是男人对自己爱的女人更是有占有欲。这种占有欲是体现在你的身边最好是只有他一个异性存在,不然的话也最好跟异性保持一定的距离。如果当你要出去外面聚会吃饭时,他总是会忍不住就问你几句:是跟男的还是女的,几点回来。他爱你,这是毋庸置疑的。
时时刻刻关心你
人一旦陷入爱情中,总是会时时刻刻想着心爱的人,男人也是不例外的。一旦男人真正的爱你的话,那么他是不愿意让自己错过你生活中的点点滴滴,他会主动关心你过得好不好,会问你今天吃得好不好,有没有遇到什么样的事情等等。
爱屋及乌,为你改变
如果一个男人真正爱你的话,那么他是会为了你去改变自己的,会让自己喜欢上你喜欢的东西,即使曾经的自己对其没有好感。比如说,他明明不喜欢小猫小狗,但是为了你尝试着去喜欢猫猫狗狗;他明明不喜欢吃韩式料理,但是你喜欢,于是他让自己喜欢上韩式料理。因为爱你,所以爱你所爱的`,为你改变。
带你进入他的圈子
如果一个男人真的爱你的话,那么他是会让你进入他的圈子,向你介绍他所有的好兄弟,好朋友,甚至还会带你见他的家人。他爱一个人,就会觉得你是优秀的,就会想在自己的朋友面前赞美你,想让他的朋友们也分享自己的喜悦。同时也是让大家知道,自己已经有爱的人了,不希望别的花花草草来打扰自己。
2.名校与你的距离也许只是一个转身 篇二
来韩国之前,我是连一丁点儿的出国深造的想法都没有的人。大学毕业,我只想找个稳定的工作,娶个贤惠的妻子,生个可爱的儿子,然后平淡地走完我的一生。这是我所理解的幸福和生活。然而也正是我的这个好朋友,让我迈出了国门,让我超越了我原有的生活,让我进入了另一种状态。现如今,他又早我一步,朝着更高的目标迈进了。他用他的努力,让我看到了生活的另一种态度和执着。
朋友早我一年来韩国,硕士毕业后,就一直张罗着去英国继续深造的事宜。为了这张剑桥的录取通知书,他足足等了两年。托福前前后后一共考了不下10次。有三次甚至是去香港参加考试。我可以想象他从沈阳坐三天火车,一路到香港的艰辛和不易,这大概是很多人都无法想象的。用他自己的话说,他将自己逼上了梁山,完全没有了退路。如果你觉得,这些路费,报名费,考试费以及时间和精力,都不算什么,那么这个压力可能是你没有办法体会到的。当很多人都已经开始工作,结婚,买房,而我们还在为了考试,申请,失败所焦虑痛苦的时候,那种无形的压力,像裹在你心上的一块透明纱布,想挣脱,却越加紧缩。一想着他一路走来的艰辛和努力,我就越为他守得云开见日出而高兴。
话说回来,剑桥、哈佛,这些所谓名校离我们并不遥远,只是我们是否有能力敲开他们的大门。可以这么说,如果你从一个相对正规的大学毕业,只要能力不算很差,把你扔进剑桥,哈佛,你也一样可以混出个名堂来,但关键就在于,你用什么来开启这扇大门,你用什么来让他们敞开怀抱欢迎你。我们往往差的不是能力,不是学识,是一种恒心和毅力,是一种勇于挑战和拼搏的精神。其实生活中很多事情都是这样,遇到越看似困难的事,我们就越惧怕,越退缩,越想放弃。而我们之所以想放弃,就是我们有很多东西舍不得。家庭,事业,很多很多。我们常常安于现状,又不满于现状。常常想跳出这个环境,却又被很多条件束缚着。
所以我们心中都有一杆秤,这杆秤随时在衡量着事物的轻重,当我们要选择一件,而放弃另一件事物的时候,这杆秤就会自动跳出来,帮我们计算。尽管有些时候,它不是那么准确。而我们要做的就是尽量让它准确,尽量地去相信它。所以面对那些遥不可及,看似困难重重的事物,我们首要做的是选择上,还是不上,而不是惧怕。当然这些事都是有风险的,一旦舍弃一切却没有成功,代价也是惨重的。但人生总要有那么几次疯狂才算历练,起码不会到人生暮年才后悔当初没有尝试。
我相信朋友去剑桥后,他的人生轨迹会自此发生很大的变化。他所接触的人和事,也都要达到一个飞跃。他一直是渴望站在高处的人,有时候觉得他活得累,但这也许就是他的乐趣,不断挑战自我的乐趣。人,选择什么样的生活很重要,只要认为是值得事,就应该去尝试,去奋斗。人生的轨迹不同,但一定都是各有风采。
3.后也许你会为之后悔的10个选择 篇三
“If only…” These two words paired together create one of the saddest phrases in the English language.
Here are ten choices that ultimately lead to this phrase of regret, and how to elude them:
1. Wearing a mask to impress others. – If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it. Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are. So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you. You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire people. Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.
2. Letting someone else create your dreams for you. – The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find. A big part of this is your decision to stay true to your own goals and dreams. Do you have people who disagree with you? Good. It means you’re standing your ground and walking your own path. Sometimes you’ll do things considered crazy by others, but when you catch yourself excitedly losing track of time, that’s when you’ll know you’re doing the right thing. Read The 4-Hour Workweek.
3. Keeping negative company. – Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you. Don’t let them get to you. They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun. When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.
4. Being selfish and egotistical. – A life filled with loving deeds and good character is the best tombstone. Those who you inspired and shared your love with will remember how you made them feel long after your time has expired. So carve your name on hearts, not stone. What you have done for yourself alone dies with you; what you have done for others and the world remains.
5. Avoiding change and growth. – If you want to know your past look into your present conditions. If you want to know your future look into your present actions. You must let go of the old to make way for the new; the old way is gone, never to come back. If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for lasting success. The Power of Habit.
6. Giving up when the going gets tough. – There are no failures, just results. Even if things don’t unfold the way you had expected, don’t be disheartened or give up. Learn what you can and move on. The one who continues to advance one step at a time will win in the end. Because the battle is always won far away and long before the final victory. It’s a process that occurs with small steps, decisions, and actions that gradually build upon each other and eventually lead to that glorious moment of triumph.
7. Trying to micromanage every little thing. – Life should be touched, not strangled. Sometimes you’ve got to relax and let life happen without incessant worry and micromanagement. Learn to let go a little before you squeeze too tight. Take a deep breath. When the dust settles and you can once again see the forest for the trees, take the next step forward. You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going to be headed somewhere great. Everything in life is in perfect order whether you understand it yet or not. It just takes some time to connect all the dots.
8. Settling for less than you deserve. – Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve. Sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller than you ever were before. Sometimes your eyes need to be washed by your tears so you can see the possibilities in front of you with a clearer vision again. Don’t settle.
9. Endlessly waiting until tomorrow. – The trouble is, you always think you have more time than you do. But one day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to work on the things you’ve always wanted to do. And at that point you either will have achieved the goals you set for yourself, or you will have a list of excuses for why you haven’t.